Her throat is so inflamed that they put her in the hospital overnight. Her tonsils are swollen, her lymph nodes full.  She could not even swallow her saliva.  Hasn't eaten in three days. Barely slept.  I miss my friend and I want her to heal.  Then I want her to rest.  I want there to be enough time in the day that she can sit, gather her strength and not have to yes/no/monitor every little action of the small people in her house and that of the older less-capable.  I do not know how mothers mother.   How fathers father.  How those in a family have enough time to nourish themselves individually.  What will she do, this one who gives it all away, now that there is nothing left to give?  How can I help her keep her strength?